Just by reading this book you’ve asked a great deal of yourself. There have been new principles to absorb, new skills to put into practice, new patterns to learn, and old patterns to unlearn. With so much to sort out and make your own, it’s sometimes hard not to lose sight of the larger picture. So once again, for the last time, let’s take a look at what this method of communication is all about.
We want to find a way to live with one another so that we can feel good about ourselves and help the people we love feel good about themselves.
We want to find a way to live without blame and recrimination.
We want to find a way to be more sensitive to one another’s feelings.
We want to find a way to express our irritation or anger without doing damage.
We want to find a way to be respectful of our children’s needs and to be just as respectful of our own needs.
We want to find a way that makes it possible for our children to be caring and responsible.
We want to break the cycle of unhelpful talk that has been handed down from generation to generation, and pass on a different legacy to our children—a way of communicating that they can use for the rest of their lives, with their friends, their coworkers, their parents, their mates, and one day with children of their own.